You can love someone with all of your heart, but how far does that reach? A few things to keep in mind are; do I love them? Or am I IN love with them? Do they love me? Or are they IN love with me? Is your partner giving you one hundred percent of themselves, or are they only giving you 62%? Do you feel like you are stretching yourself thin trying to please them and emotionally draining yourself while you do it? Does this feel like a one sided relationship? Are you giving too much, or too little?
Ask yourself each of these questions and really think about it. Then I want you to think about the pros and cons and how much weight they each hold. What is important to you in a relationship?
Relationships require equal effort, if you have begun doubting your relationship or thinking about what ifs, then it is time to take a step back and really evaluate your relationship from an outside perspective. Are you happy? Do they make you happy more than not? Are they putting in as much effort as you are? There are two sides to every paper, you rip a hole in one side and it damages the other. A relationship needs a sturdy foundation to grow and to build off of and without that it will crumble. This isn't to say that two people can't come together from rough backgrounds and not make it work. No. It is saying that two people who come together from non-ideal situations must learn to build one another up. They need to learn to work together to better their futures, to grow independently and to grow together.
We are only human, no one is perfect. If they claim to be that way then something isn't right. There is a disconnect somewhere that needs to be addressed. The world is always changing and manipulating around us and if you don't have a partner that pushes you to be a better person every single day, and you do the same for them, then is it worth it? How are you supposed to grow and spread your wings to reach your highest potential if you don't have a strong support system underneath you? It isn't about money, it isn't about materials. When you pull back everything in front of you and look solely at where you started together and where you are now, is there positive, negative or even change? Are you better now than you were then?
Every relationship is different, every person is different, but if you feel stuck and like you are the only person putting in effort can you honestly say that this is the best path for you? That's up to you to decide, here at kRazy kAtz we are trying to give perspective, support, and advice. We want each and every person to reach their greatest potential without being held back. If you have any questions, worries, suggestions or ideas for future advice topics please contact us!!! We are here to help. Keep on sparkling fellow readers!
-Krissy