It is so easy to hide yourself away.
You lock yourself in your bedroom.
You put your nose in a book
...or you keep your eyes glued to a screen.
But what is the benefit? Who is it benefiting? You?
Yeah okay, for a little while you'll ignore all the problems and stress that have been circulating around inside your brain but eventually that perfect seclusion will wear out.
Is it benefiting the people around you? Absolutely not.
My favorite quote of all time is by Dr. Seuss:
"Those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter."
You need to realize that the people who care about you only want to be there for you, shutting yourself out and secluding yourself from what is going on around you will only drag you deeper into the deep dark hole that you have fallen into.
There is only so much the people around you can do, unless you choose to open up and tell them what you need. We aren't mind readers and I have to constantly remind myself that as well. If you don't have that person, or those people to help pull you out and to be a sturdy friend to rely on then you need to reevaluate the people you are surrounding yourself with.
This life will throw you curve balls, it is not easy and it is not always simple.
Sometimes you need to ask for help, that does not make you weak, that does not make you less of a man/woman, it makes you human and it makes you strong because you can accept the fact that you yourself need help.
Denial does no good, hiding is a short term remedy, but speaking out and voicing how you are feeling and admitting to yourself and the people around you that you need help is raw power and it is you taking that power back.
The body and the brain are both made up of so many small parts, chemicals, and nerves that I myself don't fully understand.
You can ask yourself, 'why do I feel this way?'
And more times than not you will respond with 'I don't know.'
Do you really not know or are you avoiding the answer? Are you avoiding admitting to yourself or someone else why you are feeling the way you are?
If you can’t speak it then write it, if you can't write it then paint it, if you can't paint it then you need to find some sort of medium to help you express what you can't with words.
No matter what, YOU CANNOT GIVE UP ON YOURSELF. You have a purpose, you have meaning, you give meaning to others, and you still have a life ahead of you.
Emotions are exhausting, I get it, I truly do, it is what you decide to do with them that makes the difference.
Will you allow your emotions to control you? Or are you going to take back control of your life and grab those emotions by the throat, look them straight in the face and tell them that today is not that day.
Today you will not be defined by your emotions and your environment. Today you will take control and you will show those emotions who is in charge because this is YOUR LIFE.
I will end this with one more quote from an old teacher of mine:
"Control the controllable's, how you act and how you react."
Thank you so much for reading kRazy kAtz, I love each and every one of you, please reach out if you have any questions or need some words of advice, you are not alone and on this platform we are giving a safe place to be yourself. It's okay to not be okay and we are here to help you!
Keep sparkling fellow readers! Until next time...
-Krissy
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